Greatest of sages including Lord Buddha believe that attachment to our feelings, desires, emotions and possessions is the root cause of our misery.
I agree. Everyday I carry a baggage of fear and insecurity in my heart and mind. Why? Because I don’t want to lose what I love. Attachment creates this fear of loss and fear of loss creates further anxiety and misery. The list of people and objects that we love is endless. We fear losing our job, wealth, success, prosperity, materialistic possessions, loved ones et all. Even though we know that nothing lasts forever; everything is transient, yet we continue to hold onto what we have and possess. And, yet, we experience some sort of loss every now and then.
So, I think, is it possible to love and appreciate our friends, our family, possessions without being attached to them? Can we possess and yet be able to let go when we have to?
“Can you step back from you own mind and thus understand all things? Giving birth and nourishing, having without possessing, acting with no expectations, leading and not trying to control.” Lao Tzu
So, I make a conscious effort to be more accepting of who I am at the moment, with what I do and what I have, and I express my gratitude for everything that I have achieved so far, for the wonderful people that are present in my life and for the wonderful people that keep on showing up, for the wonderful person I have become.
“Things arise and she lets them come; things disappear and she lets them go. She has but doesn’t possess, acts but doesn’t expect.” Lao Tzu.
- Fear, attachment, and expectation (earthmama02.wordpress.com)
- How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Relationship (psychologytoday.com)
- Sweet Transformation (bourbontea.wordpress.com)
- Detach to Let Go (bernijourney.wordpress.com)